“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach” – Tony Robbins
We all know that the only constant in life is change, and yet we spend so much of our lives worrying about the future and wishing things were different than they are. I don’t mean to say you need to let go of your plan, what I mean is that while your plan stays the same, you need to be able to adjust as needed, as every day is unpredictable, and learn to go with the flow of life.
I haven’t met anyone that can predict the future, so why would I invest so much of my time and energy making sure things are just the way I want them to be. There are a thousand ways to get to the top, to finish that project, to get that house you want, to be comfortable with public speaking, and you must be willing to see the change coming, adjust, and move forward. Wayne Dyer said “Water is the softest of all things, yet it is the most powerful. The ocean patiently allows all things to flow into it. It is always flexible. The Tao is not about grasping, but allowing, like water”
A few years ago, I decided that I had a story to tell and that I needed to write a book so that my story can be shared with others and I can have an impact in other people’s lives. I started doing a ton of research and I attended a summer camp where I learned so much about writing a book and getting your ideas organized and what self-publishing means, and so on. I am forever grateful for that experience and everyone who encouraged me to write the book BUT I am not ready for that yet. I know it… in my heart… and instead of giving up, I asked myself, what can I do in the meantime? And the idea for this blog came up.
I know that, at this very moment, I have so much going on in my career that it is really difficult for me to focus on the book, but baby steps will take me there. The blog can help me practice my writing skills (which I’ve never done by the way). I even have to google certain rules for capitalizing words on a title and how to add quotes, and so on so please… bear with me here…. My point is, I am not 100% ready for this either but it no longer matters because you learn faster when you make mistakes and I am willing to make those mistakes and I am open to the lesson.
In the end, this is what I’ve learned. Flexibility has helped me deal with all different kinds of life situations and I know it can help you too. Why not start small and try walking different streets on your way to work or even eating in new places you may have overlooked in the past. Being flexible can lead to new adventures, growing and learning, especially when accompanied by fear.
What I want you to remember today, is to be stubborn about your goals but remain flexible about the method. When you fight what already is, you’re not only fighting a losing battle, you’re also destroying your own growth.